Fatherless

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I have been fatherless my entire life.

From the most literal sense of the word I was conceived by a sperm donor because my dad couldn’t have kids to the more figurative version when my parents got divorced when i was 10 and my Dad moved 400 miles away. To the forever (earthly at least) version when my Dad passed away last year….on fathers day.

Recently I took the DNA test 23andme. After taking the test I was soon surprised to find that I had 9 (and counting, i guess) half siblings. My biological (donor) father existed somewhere in the world, but by the miracle of modern technology I realized that I was blood related to others around the country. Equally as much as my sister that I was raised with.

As I have been in contact with some of them I realized that while my parents told me that I was donor conceived at a young age many of the others found out when they were older or even found out when they took the test and then confronted their parents about their findings.

This new realization, for some of them, rocked their world and the desire to find their biological father was impossible to shake.

What’s really in my DNA is the thought that runs through many heads when faced with this kind of information because all that I thought I was is only half true. Who am I…really? Fully?

The same question should ring true for us spiritually. Our whole lives we live thinking that we are made up of the DNA of our earthly selves, our earthly mothers and fathers (known or unknown), but the reality we need to understand is that our DNA is really, fully from our true heavenly Father.

In 7th grade I was introduced to my reality that even though I didn’t know my biological father, and that my earthly father let me down time and again that I had a Heavenly Father that loves me.

It was then that I quit looking for my father. Not because I didn’t care about my earthly fathers acceptance, nor because I wasn’t curious about what my biological father looked like. No, I stopped looking because I found my Heavenly Father.

I found the father that etched his DNA onto my heart from the creation of the world. I found a Father that put every other possibile father to shame. A father that would never let me down that would never disappear, that would never hurt me.

Louie Giglio at Passion City has been speaking about fathers in his recent sermon series NOT FORSAKEN when he reminds us that we all have been hurt by our fathers, but when we open our hearts to our Father God he will welcome us, he won’t hurt us or forsake us. Because without our true Father we will always be searching for what’s missing in our soul. We will always be looking for that matching DNA that’s only found in a relationship with God the Father

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What were we created for?

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I have always thought/said that we were created to worship God and bring Him the glory that he deserves, but yesterday I was prompted to delve deeper.

During Sunday School our teacher was talking about worship and many in the class said exactly what I was thinking and have said many times.

Then I found myself wondering if that was really the reason that God created us.

It says here in Genisis:

Then the Lord God formed a man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being. (Genesis 2:7 NIV)

And

The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it. (Genesis 2:7, 15 NIV)

Then

My wife reminded me of this potential reason: “Man’s chief end is to glorify god and enjoy him forever.”

As I studied this this morning I began to wonder about the true reason for creation.

I recognize there are many Biblical goals, fruits, signs that we are truly Christ followers but what I realized this morning was that maybe, just maybe God created us simply because he wanted to.

That’s it.

The eternal Father with the Son and Holy Spirit created man in their image because they wanted to.

What an amazing concept. That the God of the universe just wanted to create something good. And he made me. And you.

How freeing an idea.

The concept that in the beginning God wanted to make great things. He started with the heavens and the earth. He ended with you and me.

What an amazing top 7 list to be on.

Could this possibly be the foreshadowing to the message of salvation? That there is nothing we could do to earn Gods favor. He simply created us because he wanted to and he saved us because he loves us and he is the only one able to save us.

I am not, nor do I claim to be a bible scholar. I am just someone interested in why my creator chose to make me, and you, and I am comforted by the fact that maybe he did it because he wanted to make something good, in His image.

So to everyone out there that feels like they have to live up to standard set for them either inside our outside the church I encourage you to seek the truth in the Bible and ask yourself why you were created. I urge you to take comfort when the bible says that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. To rest in the fact that there is a master artist that made a beautiful work. you.

THEN while understanding this, worship the God that made you! Praise the name of the everlasting father. Give glory to the king of kings to the master sculptor that decided to create something.

And he did and it is good.

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2 life lessons from the Daily Show’s John Stewart

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Lessons from John stewarts bioI am a huge fan of the show by Bloomberg called Gamechangers.

The show spotlights the lives of people in the business, and social world that have revolutionized an industry, business, or society.

Yesterday I was on the treadmill watching Gamechangers: Jon Stewart. While on the surface I never thought I could find relevant content from his life to all of ours, I was seriously wrong.

Jon Stewart was named a couple years ago one of the top 4 most trusted people in the news world. That’s right, trusted. Who would have thought a comedy central host of a satirical show could have that title. But not only trusted. Viacom, the parent company of comedy central, road his coattails out of impending financial trouble and he was the savior of  the dying network comedy central.

Quick overview of John Stewart’s beginnings:

1989: began comedy career
1991: Hosted Short Attention Span Theater
1992: Short Attention Span Theater Cancelled
1993: Lost to Conan Obrien as replacement for Letterman on The Late Show
1994-1999: Numerous box office failures (Half Baked, Death to Smoochy)
1999: becomes host of The Daily Show

A few obvious observations.

John Stewart experienced rejection:

  1. as a stand-up comic he interviewed for Letterman’s job and didn’t get it
  2. he tried out for Saturday Night Live and was rejected

John Stewart Failed when he was accepted:

  1. in 1993 The John Stewart Show never took off and was canceled just a year later
  2. Experienced numerous failures in movies
  3. given hosting opportunities and they flopped (Short Attention Span Theater, You wrote it You watch it)

Over 10 years John Stewart experienced many set back and failures until he finally was given the opportunity to star in a role that appears as if it was made just for him.

I hope we all can learn from this TV personality and continue to press on toward our goal through hardships and setbacks. I can imagine if I was given a show with my name in the headline and it totally bombed I may think that I missed my shot, but he kept pushing. For 10 years he kept pushing past rejection and failure. That’s a long time!

What setbacks are you currently facing on the road to your dreams?

Are you giving up or pushing forward?

 

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Are you on the path to failure?

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Trajectory.

Over Christmas I was putting together a little car for my 2 year old. As I followed my way through the included directions I found myself getting frustrated with the pictures of nuts and bolts that I knew were different but all looked the same on the piece of paper they provided, and regardless of which way I turned the directions I couldn’t figure out how to put the axle on right.

Needless to say I began going with my intuition of where things should go, and about 45 minutes into the project I was finished.

One minor problem. The steering wheel didn’t turn.  No big deal I thought to myself. He’s only 2. He wont even turn it anyway.

Reasonableness finally set in and I took the whole car apart and began again. The right way, and Christmas morning that steering wheel turned.

This lesson in frustration reminded me of the concept of trajectory.

tra·jec·to·ry
trəˈjektərē/
noun
noun: trajectory; plural noun: trajectories
1.
the path followed by a projectile flying or an object moving under the action of given forces.
“the missile’s trajectory was preset”
While my life is not a projectile object (typically) I believe the concept of trajectory is ultra important.
What choice trajectory are you on?

I think we all should look at the path we are currently traveling on and consider what this path will produce over time. Where will this path end up if you continue on it.

In a lighthearted way that car I was putting together would have been rendered useless if I never fixed it and my 2 year old was still trying to turn the (non-working) steering wheel at 3 or 4 years old.
In a more serious way I consider things like:

Your Health:

 

I have had high blood pressure my entire life. When I discussed this with my doctor a few years ago he told me I should consider medicine to keep it low. I asked him what would happen if I never took medicine. He said I would be fine for 20 or so years, but may have problems in my 50’s.
Trajectory.
A problem not dealt with over time creates a big problem. The gap continues to widen over years.

So what about other issues.

 

Many people are talking about weight-loss in the new year. I am not opining either way, but I beg you to consider what if you didn’t change anything about your eating or excersise? What would your life look like in 5 years? 10? 20?

 

What trajectory is your health on?

Your Faith:

I consider the my relationship with Jesus. A relationship is neither built nor lost over night. So I consider the time I am spending with the Lord every day and wonder what will my relationship with God look like in a few years if I continue having (or not having) daily time in the Bible and worship?
Or maybe you’ve never considered the concept of faith. I challenge you to consider  your current beliefs and thoughts on eternity, and what trajectory you are on. I challenge you to consider the fact that many die without having the opportunity to thoughtfully consider and seek out answers to their questions about eternity…a very dangerous trajectory. Check out this video on God’s love for YOU.

What trajectory is your  faith on?

Your family:

I love Andy Stanly’s sermons series “Choosing to Cheat” and his introduction to the concept of daily giving your spouse a rock to hold till you get home. Sure one day you work late, or have a difficult season of business, but what type of trajectory are you on? In the sermon eventually his wife drops the rock after being told time and time again to keep holding it more and more because she just can’t hold it any longer.
The fallout is bad and hard to fix.

But it didn’t start overnight. It was on a crash course, a trajectory, that was bound to fall apart.

Your Finances:

I look at spending. Is our current lifesyle, spending habits, views on money sustainable? What type of trajectory is that on? Is it one that ends with good stewardship and faithful giving or one that ends in financial hardship and ruin?
Again, it is about daily choices. Trajectory.

Challenge:

My challenge to you and to myself is to look at the trajectory of your life, choices, activities and see where they will put you in 5, 10, 20 years. What type of trajectory am I on if nothing changes?
The beautiful thing about trajectory is that the slightest thing can change its course. A little wind can cause something in flight to end up thousands of miles from the course it was headed to over time. A small nudge today can change the course of something in the future.
Consider this:
  • Faith: What if I spent 10 minutes reading the Bible every day?
  • Health: What if I cut out one coke a week?
  • Family: What if I spent 15 minutes without tv or phones and talked to my kids?
  • Finances: What if I saved one dollar a day?

Here’s what those small changes can do to a trajectory:

My point is not that this is the plan you should take, or that this is the way to know God or loose weight. The point is that small changes over time make big differences.
So where are you headed? What’s your trajectory?
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How to stop worrying about money

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Trust in GodFor most of my life I have been worried about money.

When I was a kid and my parents got divorced my mom took on a few jobs to make ends meet. I distinctly remember her walking into my bedroom and telling me that she was going to have to file for bankruptcy(which she never had to do). For an adult this was a legal way to stave off your creditors, but for me, as a kid this meant we were broke.

Circumstances like that set off a fear of not having the means to make ends meet.

While on vacation last week I found myself feeling a myriad of emotions surrounding the cost of the trip. The emotions ranged from guilt to worry to depression. Keep in mind Anna and I had planned to take the trip, and were paying cash.

Nevertheless, I found myself haunted by these feelings.

During the trip a friend of mine shared the devotional  by Andy Stanley: Be Rich. While reading through the devotion I found myself convicted by my views on money in a way that was foreign to me, and in a light I haven’t heard discussed much.

What was revealed to me is that over the past few years is that I had replaced my reliance on the Father for reliance on financial security and essentially made money my god.

Not in a materialistic way, or in a covetous way (which is typically how I hear it discussed) or even in a greedy way,  but I had quietly replaced  the trust and hope that only God provides for the false sense of security that money provides, and my anxiety and guilt that I have carried since I was a child found its way into my life in a way I had never known.

I always would have said I trusted in God and had my faith in him during bad times and times of trouble. I, oddly enough, found it easier to trust God during time of struggle. But today, I have an income and I don’t feel the same daily financial struggles that I had earlier in life, but I have found myself un-trusting in a new way.

So I wonder if there are any of you that share my experience. I wonder if you have been trusting the god of money.

The deception of the world is that money provides stability, but the Truth was revealed to me in the parable about the Rich man and his barns is that all of this is out of our control.

16 And he told them this parable: “The ground of a certain rich man yielded an abundant harvest. 17 He thought to himself, ‘What shall I do? I have no place to store my crops.’

18 “Then he said, ‘This is what I’ll do. I will tear down my barns and build bigger ones, and there I will store my surplus grain. 19 And I’ll say to myself, “You have plenty of grain laid up for many years. Take life easy; eat, drink and be merry.”’

20 “But God said to him, ‘You fool! This very night your life will be demanded from you. Then who will get what you have prepared for yourself?’

21 “This is how it will be with whoever stores up things for themselves but is not rich toward God.”

What a deception the world has today that if we work hard enough or save well enough we can achieve financial security. The reality is that just like the farmer relies on the rain or the weather to yield a good crop all we are given comes from the Father.

So the challenge to myself, and you is not to Tithe more, or spend less. I would say I am a giver and a saver.

The Challenge is

  • Challenge your fears: Are they really rooted in a lack of faith and trust in God?
  • Be a good steward: Recognize that just like the farmer in the parable all things can come to an end in a flash.
  • Ask for wisdom: What are those other areas of your life, like mine, that sin is hiding?

I am so grateful for the freedom and truth found in these scriptures and that the teaching of Jesus are alive today just as they were 2,000 years ago.

What do you struggle with in your faith? How have you been set free?

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9 steps that changed my marriage

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A couple years ago my business partner and I went to a business coach to help us work better together and understand each other’s strengths and weaknesses better.

While we were there I found a tool that truly would rock my marriage.

This tool is a method of conflict resolution that revolutionized the way we deal with issues.

Let’s assume Anna asked me to do something and I forgot (not that that ever happens!!)

Despite the fact that I may have every reason in the world for forgetting Anna has an issue with me….and that’s ok.

Typically, prior to us using this exercise, Anna would tell me how it bothered her and I would explain my side and she would seem “ok”. This was a dangerous thing in our marriage because while I thought the issue was resolved Anna didn’t feel like she was ever heard.

So in our “issues clearing model” we start with Anna (and only Anna) doing ALL the talking.

1. Present the facts (indisputable facts)

ie. I told you to take out the trash and you didn’t do it.

No assumptions here. Not “I asked you to take out the trash and you didn’t want to” or ” I asked you to take out the trash and you forgot”. Those are assumptions. Just facts. I asked and it wasn’t done. Period.

And no rebuttal by me.

2. The story I’m telling myself. (Your perception of the facts)

ie. the story I’m telling myself is you weren’t listening to me. Or the story I’m telling myself is you didn’t want to

3. And that makes me feel (emotions)

ie. and that makes me feel unimportant. Or that makes me feel like you don’t participate

4. My role.

There are two sides to everything so admit yours. This doesn’t discount your position just acknowledges some level of responsibility.

My role is I asked you to take it out the trash and may not have told you a timeframe. Or my role is I may have told you about the trash while you were in the middle of something else.

5. What I want

Be very clear about what you want from the other person

What I want is for you to take the trash out or what I want is for you to really listen to me.

Now it’s your turn. NOT A REBUTTAL! Anna has an issue with me this is not my turn to be on the defense.

6. Repeat exactly what she said.

“what I heard you say is
1. Facts
2. Story your telling your self
3. Feelings
4. Your role
5. What you want.

Verbatim.

7. Ask “Did I get that right”

This is your spouses turn to make sure you got it. If you missed something go back to step 6.

8. Is there anything else?

This is the time to lay it all on the table.

If yes, Start from the top. The first time Anna and I did this this part went on for over an hour. Clear it all out!

9. Are we clean with each other.

One last shot.

That’s it!

This method was revolutionary for us not only in our marriage but as a clear lens to look though to distinguish facts from emotions and make sure we are always clear with each other and honor the person with the issue.

Don’t be afraid to say you have an issue and don’t be tempted to jump in and rebut what your spouses issue is.

She is entitled to have issue with you. Just listen to her.

So I challenge you to talk through this with your spouse and be bold enough to ask him or her is there is anything they need to raise with you.

It could just change your life.

Let me know how it goes in the comments!

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What if this picture was your last?

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My two oldest kids are headed off to their grandparents for the weekend while Anna and I head to California for the Auburn game.

They pulled out of the driveway an hour or so ago and I just opened my phone and pulled up my photos. This was the last picture I took of my kids before they left with their friend at my office.

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We had a great morning playing together at “daddy’s office”

While I am sure, God willing, they will return home safely on Tuesday the thought crosses my mind that “what if they don’t”. What if that picture, this day, was the last I had with them?

I am sure I would hang on to that picture with my life. I am sure I would recount all the things we did and said to each other all day. I would replay that “goodbye” a million times.

I would wonder what I would have done differently.

Thankfully as I sit here today I can honestly say I don’t regret anything from our last 12 hours. But 24 hours? Possibly. 48? For sure.

So who’s to know when that last photo will be. Who knows when that last word will be the last word.

I know I have no idea which words or acts will be the last. So for the sake of sparing you the “live every moment like its your last” comments I simply remind you and myself to slow down and enjoy it because eventually tomorrow won’t come for all of us.

What if your last actions are your final chance. Would you be proud of them?

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How to quit your job

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A friend of mine quite his job on a whim.

Don't be chained to your job

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No planning, no fall back, no safety net. He worked for a boss he hated and one day he walked in and was tired of it and he quit. He is 40 years old and he quit. He isn’t some silver spoon boy from a well-healed family. He didn’t have a job making a ton of money. He was just a normal guy that was tired of it. So he quit.

I went to high school with a pretty neat guy, Dan McLaughlin. While I haven’t spoken to Dan in years I have been inspired by his story. A couple years ago he quit his job to prove a point. With 10,000 hours of diligent practice you can become an expert at anything (almost). According to his website Thedanplan.com :

On April 5th, 2010, Dan quit his day job as a commercial photographer and began The Dan Plan. Having never played 18 holes of golf in his life, Dan started the 10,000 hour journey with just a putter.  After five months of putting, he received his second club, a pitching wedge. Just before the first anniversary of The Dan Plan dan took his first full-swing lesson.  After 18 months he swung a driver for the first time.  On December 28, 2011 he played his first full round with a full set of clubs.  Since then it has been off to the races.

Logging in 30-plus hours a week he will hit the 10,000 hour milestone by December 2016. During this time, Dan plans to develop his skills through deliberate practice, eventually winning amateur events and obtaining his PGA Tour card through a successful appearance in the PGA Tour’s Qualifying School, or “Q-School”.

 

I realized a few years ago that my political science background really wasn’t that marketable during the “great recession” and the skills I had learned in real estate development and finance weren’t in high demand since banks were going out of business and failed developments were everywhere. Dusting off my resume wasn’t really a winning strategy for me. What was in high demand was an income from me to support my family. 

In my early 20’s it was so easy to get out of college and enter the working world and start earning money in amounts (even small ones) that were greater than the tips I got from waiting tables or tending bar and thought I could do anything I wanted to do within my new found (small) wealth. So what did I do? I began spending money as quickly as it came in. Thankfully for a variety of reasons this did not last long for me.

What I do see as epidemic though is the amount of college grads that get out of school and begin living a lifestyle that spends every dime that comes in the door because “i’m young, right? I’ve got all the time in the world to save”.

Unfortunately that lifestyle begins to be something that increases as your pay does, and unknowingly you have a pair of golden handcuffs on you forever and your ability to take risk, follow your dreams, or pursue your passion is hamstrung by the salary that you must have to pay your bills.

So what do these three stories have in common?

 

The concept of “margin”.

Had my friend not been diligent to live below his means, had Dan not saved since high school, and had I not consistently put money away none of us would have been free to pursue our dreams, or take advantage of an opportunity.

For me, my dream was to build a company and because, through the grace of God, I was able to stay in the game MountainSeed was born.

This has become my number one piece of advice for recent college grads. Create Margin. As much as you can.

 

So,  to the recent college grad, to the millennial, to the entrepreneur in disguise; create margin for yourself in your personal finances. Live (well) below your means. Store away while you are young so that when you want to (if you want to) you are free to take a leap to something new.

I love the quote from Dave Ramsey “Live like no one else so one day you can live like no one else”

Have you ever taken a risk because of your margin, or wished you had? Let me know your experiences below.

 

 

 

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Atheists are right about Christmas today

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At the gym this morning I was interrupted by a news report that caught my eye.

The story was about the outrage that Christians are showing over a billboard put out by the group American Atheist saying “Who needs Christ during Christmas, Nobody”

Christ is Christmas

 

The outrage that ensued on Fox News was expected, and the Christians reaction was good with a subsequent witty billboard:

Christian Response to Atheist billboard

 

The problem I have with both sides is I believe the atheists, although unintended I’m sure, are on to something.

Every Christmas seems to be about the same. We begin complaining about it coming “earlier every year”, and the common response when you ask someone how things are going is “busy”.

Who needs Christ at Christmas? 

If the billboard was truly a question the answer is everybody, but I think there is a much deeper question. The question I ask myself is where is Christ in Christmas and more often than not the answer is: Nowhere.

As I sit and wonder what this means I remember the first Christmas . The one that Christ WAS in. I bet if you asked most anyone who’s birthday it was the answer wouldn’t have been Jesus. I am sure that there would have been precious few that would say the day was cause for celebration at all because, after all. This was just a baby, right. A baby of little consequence to the world.

What about the 34th Christmas? Was that a little different? Some 8 months after Jesus had surrendered his life to the cross to save us from our sins. The man that had performed so many miracles the man that had risen people from the dead. Did people take notice that “Christmas” day?

And today. Where is Jesus? I went to the mall with my family to see Santa and while it felt a lot like the wise men must have felt on their journey at the end there was no worship. In fact maybe that is a lot what it was like. My kids sat on his lap and asked this old man to give them a bunch of stuff that they probably wouldn’t use in a year (if that long).

Quite the opposite of what Christmas is like with Christ in it, right? The wise men didn’t sit on the lap of Mary or Joseph and tell them all the things they wanted. NO. They brought HIM gifts. They bowed down and worshiped Him.

So the atheists are on to something. They are simply identifying the culture in our world today. The culture that is so hard to fight against for both Christ followers and non-Christians alike. The fight to find a meaning beyond all the hoopla. And they are right in saying what most people are feeling during this busy season.

So my challenge to you is to stop persecuting the atheist for stating the obvious cultural belief and start living like the wise men who came with gifts for a baby King and worshiped Him for the ultimate gift He would give us by giving His life to save us from our Sins…a gift we do not deserve.

So if the true “meaning of Christmas” according to americanatheist.org is  ” family, friends, charity, food, snow.” Then count me out, I’m in it for a birthday party.

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How Auburn Football made me a better father

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I was raised by a single mom and I can honestly say the only thing that she was unable to give me emotionally was the desire to watch football all weekend. Then I left for college.

At Auburn I became fully immersed in all things a large University had to offer and by going to one of the greatest schools in the Southeastern Conference gameday was an essential part of my college “education”, and quite possibly the only part of it I still use today.

So here I am 12 years later and my gameday experience has changed dramatically. I have spent the past 5 ½ years trying to figure out how to effectively watch my beloved auburn tigers without the distraction of my 4 children 5 and under. My typical strategy was easy on a night game and difficult on a day game. If the game was at 3:30 I would record the game, turn off all social media, and begin every conversation during the day with “don’t tell me anything about the game” then once the kids were in bed I would grab a cold beer and press play.

This year we moved into a new house before college football season, and I had the brilliant idea to save money on cable and buy a pair of HD rabbit ears instead because “we really didn’t watch much TV anyway”, right? Sort of. My genius idea began to go terribly wrong because although I tried rabbit ears don’t record anything, and my VCR had long since been sent to goodwill even if they still sold blank VHS tapes.

So the 2013 season began and hopes were pretty low for my Auburn Tigers so the thought of missing a game here and there didn’t seem like the absolute end of the world. Little did I know the magic 2013 would bring. I had to do the unthinkable. Actually watch a game with my 5 year old, 3 year old, and 2 1 year olds, and the miracle that has been for Auburn became a miracle for me.

The first part of a game we watch was the Auburn Georgia game. I had planned it perfectly. It was a 3:30 game and I could have the game on and watch it with distraction for the first and second quarters, put them to bed at halftime and watch the game in peace towards the end. All was going according to plan when, with 1 minute left in the game my 3 year old and 5 year old walked out of their bedroom (past their bedtime). Typically I would walk them back to their room and remind them not to get out of bed, but with one minute left I said “why don’t you sit and watch the last minute with us”.

What a last minute it was. On a hail mary pass two Georgia defenders went up for the ball, tipped it in the air and allowed Louis to make miracle catch. My wife and I jumped to our feet and were screaming and running around cheering…so were our kids. I’m not sure they even knew what was happening but they began jumping around clapping saying “War Eagle!”. Bedtime took a bit longer that night as Trey wanted to act out the amazing catch over and over again. It was awesome.

Two weeks later another 3:30 game came on. The Iron Bowl. The excitement in our house grew and grew and when I put our daughter down for a nap at 1 she was crying for fear of “missing the football game”. It, as well, didn’t disappoint. We all were there, in the living room with the fire on watching the Auburn Tigers pull out another miracle. More cheering ensued, more hi-fives, war eagles, and delayed bedtimes.

While I thought what we had done was created Auburn fans for life I am more convinced that  it had nothing to do with game winning catches or last second plays. It had to do with our little ones seeing their parents cheer, scream, dance, and laugh regardless of the situation. Our kids loved what we loved. They cheer when we cheer and they dance when we dance.

Auburn beats Alabama

So now I think about those other things I do, or don’t do. I think about the motivation that our kids have or don’t have, and I look at my reactions to these things.

Football is just a game, but my kids lives are real and their hopes and dreams are, for a brief time, in my hands. While Ricardo Louis will forever be the guy that won the Georgia Game there is no doubt no one will remember my involvement in the win(or lack thereof).  What will be remembered however is involvement I have in my kids successes and failures. Do I jump up and down when my kids make good choices, when they do well in school? Do I show such unashamed emotion during their school plays, or recitals and elicit the same responses from them, or will I be checking my email or returning a phone call.

Will I be living in social media posts, or “liking” or “sharing” others success, or will I be clapping and raving about the life I lead.

And my wife, when was the last time I cheered for her? When was the last time we danced together when she had a great day, or exploded with joy when she experienced a big win?

So thank you Gus Malzahn, thank you Ricardo Louis and Nick Marshall, and truly that’s now why I believe in Auburn, and love it.

 

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